5 things women leaders should stop doing. TODAY.

5 things women leaders should stop doing. TODAY.5 things women leaders should stop doing. TODAY.Over the last couple years, Ive had a front-row seat to career challenges women leaders face across industries, geographies, worldviews, cultures, experience levels, and generations. Certain issues strongly correlate with specific identifiers, while others are universal. Both observation and conversations have given me an interesting window into the minds and hearts of women.As accomplished as we are, and we are, there are counter-productive behaviors we unconsciously adopt that can get in our way. In some cases, they stop us cold before we ever step foot on the path to greatness. And even when we do achieve high levels of career satisfaction, these thoughts often cause stress along the way.If you desire to be your best professional self and make the difference only you can make, here are five things you should stop doing. Today.1. Stop making yourself small so someone else can feel bigEve r meet someone who seems more comfortable when youre quiet, disengaged, or otherwise minimized? Does it feel easier to hang back, because when you lila drink forward, he or she becomes defensive and starts angling for position? Newsflash Thats not your problem, and you shouldnt limit your contribution to make others feel better about theirs. Let me be clear. Im not suggesting you abandon discernment and get all high and mighty. Im talking about refusing to shrink in order to enhance anothers sense of importance.The most self-respecting way to help others is to truly help them by sharing your ideas, offering your talents, and lending your energy and support. You dont serve anyone by diminishing yourself.2. Stop apologizing for having a difference of opinionIm sure youve heard the saying, If two of us are exactly the same, one of us is redundant. Its true. You dont have to agree with everyone else. In fact, women at work tend to be more collaborative, more holistic in their thinking, and often take a long-range view of business issues. Your female view is additive, and you have an opportunity to meaningfully contribute to your company vision, culture, and strategies.Additionally, working through divergent points of view improves problem solving. By thoughtfully sharing your unique perspective, you can help your team make better decisions. Speak up. And dont apologize.3. Stop assuming you cant have a family AND a careerI met a woman at a conference earlier this year who expressed concern about her opportunity to be a mom and have a flourishing career. I understand the sentiment, but this woman wasnt even married yet, never mind pregnant. It occurred to me that she was already succumbing to the narrative about work-life balance well before she had any real choices to make.Heres the deal If you assume you cant, you wont even try. Any woman who has successfully navigated both realms will admit that she absolutely has to make difficult choices at times. But it can b e done, if you want to do it. Whats more, the sooner companies embrace creative ways to unleash the power of womens leadership while respecting their various roles, the more desirable those companies will be in the eyes of female and Millennial talent. This will help those companies thrive in the long run. Dont deny what you want. Say yes to your goals, and honor your needs in the process. Everyone will benefit, including the women who come behind you, and the men who share the same needs but are less likely to request flexibility.If your employer isnt supportive, I offer you the immortal words of my good friend and workforce expert Trudy Bourgeois If your company doesnt work for you, dont work for it.4. Stop compromising your health, for anything especially workEvery now and then, you need to hop off the hamster wheel for a bit. You usually know when youre about to hit a wall. Dont wait for it. Take a mental health day, plan a weekend getaway, hide in your bedroom for a couple hou rs. If you live with other people, ask them to give you some privacy.The older I get, the better I understand why people say good health is our greatest gift. Without it, everything else deadlines, difficult bosses, challenging employees, shortsighted clients, projects going off the rails becomes unimportant. Take care of yourself, physically and emotionally, so you can reach your full potential.5. Stop confusing what you do with who you areI believe its critical to know who you are (beliefs, values, purpose, and skills), so you can align who you are with what you do. Job satisfaction increases exponentially when there is harmony between the two. But while they complement each other, they are not the same thing.Sometimes we attach our esteem to work activities, and when our performance takes a hit, our self-worth takes one, too. Feedback is a valuable and necessary tool it allows you to refine your skills and improve your overall effectiveness.That said, you have to be careful not to interpret constructive criticism as a character assassination. It sounds extreme, but Ive found that even though women know this in theory, we still struggle to distinguish between a job and a person doing the job.If you desire a more fulfilling career, take time to reflect on which of your behaviors enable your goals versus detract from them. Ask yourself, What should I start doing? Keep doing? Stop doing? Consider this list a springboard to start your own introspection.Wishing you renewed energy in the months ahead, and the confidence to know you are worthy and ableThis article first appeared on Be Leaderly.